As we all know the economy has been tough, and finding a job can give us the “unemployment blues.” During this season in life, it is natural to hide or lash out at others.
As we all know the economy has been tough, and finding a job can give us the “unemployment blues.” During this season in life, it is natural to hide or lash out at others. In school, we learn about that as the “fight or flight” instinct. Since losing and finding a job is a MAJOR life event that is attached to your very existence, it is easy to see why we would act that manner because money is tied to just about everything in our life, the need to stay working is vital. In fact, the longer someone goes without a job, the easier it is to get desperate and depressed, which can cause us to act in ways we normally wouldn’t, and if you have a predisposition to an emotional disablement, it could be worse.
In the article “When Job Loss Leads to Depression,” according to Luc Chabot, MEd, a psychotherapist in Montreal and founder of Relais Expert-Conseil, a firm specializing in workplace issues, how well a job loss is handled depends on many factors: age, financial situation, your ability to deal with stress, and any emotional disorders you might already have.”
Even though it might be natural to act out during these tough times, it is worthwhile to remember that what separates us from most of the animal kingdom is the ability to reason and not solely act on instinct or predisposition. In fact, isolation or aggression usually away from the very people we need around us in difficult times for emotional and other forms of support. Instead, in both good times and bad, it is worthwhile to build a support system around you to prepare for those rainy days. Even in those times when things are at their worst, push past the anger and the sadness and have coffee with friends, help your next-door neighbor rake leaves or drop by your parents or other relatives’ house to visit.
When you lose your job, continue to stay active. It is ok to take a break from one job to the other if your finances allow it, but don’t wait to refine that resume - get the resume out again! It can sometimes take months for a job to finally come through. Starting the process immediately can help you avoid a large gap of time between your jobs. While you are polishing off your resume, take some time to do a few things you couldn’t do while you were employed like fishing, visiting family, spending time with your kids or doing some inexpensive traveling.
Losing a job can also be the perfect time to start a small business. Try doing something from home like E-baying some of your old items, perform some task around the neighborhood like handyman work, or utilizing some of your trade knowledge or special abilities that won’t require much capital. It is imperative not to start businesses that would cause family hardship utilizing the last of your nest egg. In fact, getting involved in financial workshops and surrounding yourself with people that are better with money would help you with your current financial situation and assist you in deciding on a good business idea, weighing the cost vs the gain.
Another thing you might want to consider is volunteering part of your time or working at a job that is below your job skill level. By getting away from the house, you can be made aware of other potential jobs that are out there. Networking only works if you are out the public. Being out in the community volunteering or working at your local fast food restaurant can also show off your skills and work ethics. If I am the brightest fixture there, someone else who comes through the drive-through will want to take me home! Internet networking is great, but getting out of the house is even better.
Another thing to think of is going to church. It is a great place to pray and meditate, helping keep that right state of mind. You can also usually find genuine people there that will want to help you in your situation and may even have some knowledge of job openings and advice, personally knowing your situation. In addition to the church, find other support groups, social clubs and community activities to meet people. This will also keep you busy and out of trouble or moping.
Last, as all of us know, desperate times make stupid people. When things are tough we tend to make the very choice that will cause things to get worse, such as doing things like spending our money on “get rich quick” schemes, “business opportunities," or gambling.” They say the worst time to go to the grocery store is when you are hungry; well, the same applies in the unemployment situation. Wait on those kinds of things until you have money and take a few more risks then. The key thing to remember is that you don’t have to act at a place of desperation. There are agencies, churches, family, and programs that can be there to assist when you are in need. Having your basic needs met will help you go confidently in your job search. (Taken from the Hoxie Sentinel)